Basharfocus

Bashar was asked about how to deal with negative people in our experience.

He says to start by not labeling anything as negative, because if we do, all we’re doing is agreeing with them and then perpetuating that idea.

If someone does something negative that we perceive is directed at us, knowing that we are creating our version of them, then we must somewhere within our own consciousness be in agreement with that idea, in order to perceive it that way.

He says we have the ability to observe, in a neutral sense and not take it to heart, if we know it has nothing to do with us. The only reason we feel affected by it is if we agree that it does.

Bashar gives this analogy: If we were wearing something blue and someone came up to us and said: “I hate that red color you’re wearing”. Our reaction would be – that makes no sense! And we would conclude that it must have nothing to do with us. They must be crazy or talking about someone else. We wouldn’t be affected by it, because it wouldn’t make sense to us. We would have no emotional reaction to it.

When we do feel our emotional reaction to someone’s supposed attack, what we’re actually doing is getting our version of them, to reflect that some portion of ourselves feels that way. Otherwise we wouldn’t react. We would just observe it, and move on.

He says that if we react to it, some part of us is actually buying into this as true. We could say, “thank you for showing that I was not loving all of myself”. And when we really start doing that, then we may see that someone else’s attitude toward us may change. We’ve changed our version of them in our reality to be more reflective of the fact that we’re now loving ourselves more wholly.

They may still be going off and insulting everybody, but the only version of them we’ll get, is the version we’ve created that is now reflective of the love we’re willing to give to ourselves.

Bashar suggests we see this as a shadow play. It’s our reality experience, but it’s not empirically real. It’s just a symbol of the reality we are creating ourselves to be. Just because it looks like someone else is in the room with us, they’re not! We’re the only one in it. All of the other people are just holograms.

Bashar says one of the things we are here to learn is our self-worth in the face of opposing opinions. Are we going to believe in the truth that is us, or are we going to believe in someone else’s truth that has nothing to do with us?

Anytime we are reacting to someone else’s communication at us; that’s another opportunity to feel our self worth. He says that when someone says something that seems like an attack, they’re actually telling us is that they have the same fear and they’re just projecting it on us.

This gives us an opportunity to decide whether it’s true for us. And what we can do, is be big enough to hold a space to allow them to find out whether it really needs to continue to be true for them, by loving them back for showing us an opportunity to love ourselves more.