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Remove limiting beliefs & the motivational mechanism

A questioner tells Bashar that they are finding a lot of pain involved in letting go of old concepts.

His reply is that the only reason we would have that pain is we don’t believe that we need to let go of the limiting beliefs. We believe they’re still serving us. We’re actually saying no matter how painful they may be to hold on to, the alternative is worse.

Bashar’s urges us to understand the motivational mechanism. It is automatic for everyone. There is nothing we need to do to make this work. It’s already working. We just have to understand how it works, so that we can use it in a way that we prefer.

The motivational mechanism is that we will always immediately automatically move in the direction of what we believe to be in our best interests. We will always immediately and automatically move away from what we believe is not in our best interest.

If we’re holding on to something that we know intellectually, is not in our best interests and we understand the motivational mechanism, the only way that could stick around is if we have defined it in the motivational mechanism as actually being in our best interest more than the alternative. Or vice versa.

We’re willing to put up with the pain and struggle of the thing we don’t prefer, just because it’s more familiar and feels safer. Because we’re so much more scared of the thing we don’t know about.

We need to find out what it is we’re holding on to. Only by consciously identifying what it is we’re holding on to can we let them go. If we don’t know what they are, we have nothing to work with.

The feelings only come because we believe something to be true. We can’t have a feeling without believing something to be true first.
These are just belief systems, they’re not empirical truths.

It’s us that gives it solidity by believing in that idea. We’re the ones giving it form and shape for some reason. Bashar tells us to find out what the reason is.

We should ask ourselves why we’re buying into those kinds of limiting ideas that produce struggle, strife, pain.

Bashar tells to remember that pain is resistance to the natural self.

We have to watch our definitions. We have a definition that says if we become who we prefer to be, there’s something about that, that’s going to be painful. We should realize that’s nonsensical. How could becoming who we prefer to be, contain a definition of being something that is not what we prefer?

Our definitions are muddled. Defining who we are, that’s where we’re having the difficulty.

We’re creating our own contradictory definitions about who we are. If that really is what we prefer to be, it cannot by definition, contain the elements of negativity. It would make no sense. So what we’re defining is someone that isn’t who we prefer to be.

But when we define clearly who it is we do prefer to be, and we allow ourselves to be that person, it will not contain anything that is irrelevant.

There is nothing empirically true that what it is you prefer to do, has to be hard. Of course there will always be some challenges. We might have to actually take some actions and do things. But if it’s truly a labor of love, it won’t feel like a labor it will be a joy.

When we allow ourselves to know that everything is neutral and doesn’t have built-in meaning and we supply the meaning that we prefer, we always get the effect that we prefer, regardless of what’s going on around us.

We should know that the things and opportunities that are presented to us in our lives are always there, without exception, for us to put a positive meaning into them and get a positive effect out, of because that’s our choice.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBElNLE_cC8

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